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When Crystal Jones first saw James Christopher Starks 14 years ago at the Classic Bowl in Morton Grove, she knew he was something special.

Jones, 59, was born and raised in Evanston and comes from a long line of bowlers. She was a regular at Classic Bowl, as were Starks, 50, and his parents, Jimmy and Frenchie Starks. Though not a bowler himself, Starks would often accompany his parents to watch and socialize.

Crystal Jones and James Christopher Starks Credit: Submitted

“He’s handsome and had dreadlocks at the time. When he smiled, that was it,” Jones said of the couple’s first encounter. 

A first date, although not at a bowling alley, soon followed and while the couple was not exclusive, they spent a lot of time together.

At the time, Starks was busy raising his daughters, Kayla and Jada Starks, now 21 and 17.  Jones has three children, Tramelle Williams, Michelle Thomas and Michael Thomas and six grandchildren, who range in age from 7 months to age 12.

Starks and Jones waited a year before the did the introductions to their children and Jones’ grandchildren. After that “we were inseparable. I still get excited to see him,” said Jones.

A 1981 graduate of Evanston Township High School, Jones is a hairstylist and also co-owner of Magik Shoppe in Skokie. Her three children also graduated from ETHS and her son, Michael, was the catalyst behind the school’s bowling program, which still exists today. Her daughter, Tramalle, earned a bowling scholarship to Texas Southern University in Houston.

Starks was born in Evanston but left town at the age of 8. He is a digital print operator at Alight Solutions, Libertyville. Both are members of Second Baptist Church, Evanston, where Jones has been a member of the choir since she was 16.

The couple dated steadily for 14 years with discussions of marriage, but “nothing too serious,” said Jones.

On May 11, 2019, during a dinner at STK Steakhouse, Jones was shocked when Starks got down on one knee and proposed. “Get up! What are you doing?” Jones remembered telling him. Starks definitely surprised Jones, but restaurant staff and her family were in on it all. Jones said, “The whole restaurant cheered!”

Like so many other couples, Starks and Jones postponed their wedding for two years due to the pandemic.

But on May 13, 2022, about 150 friends and relatives watched as Senior Pastor Dr. Michael C.R. Nabors from Second Baptist Church officiated at the ceremony held at the Fountain Blue Banquets & Conference Center in Des Plaines.

Both wanted to include their families in the ceremony.

Jimmy Starks was the best man, and Jones’ daughters served as her matron and maid of honor. Jones’ oldest grandson walked down the aisle before the bride and two of her granddaughters were flower girls.

Her son walked Jones down the aisle and her father, Samuel Jones, Sr., 92,  gave her away. Two of her grandsons carried signs that read “If you think we’re cute, wait until you see the bride!”

Following the ceremony, Jones’ surprised her new husband by singing a heartfelt rendition of At Last by Etta James.

After a cocktail hour and beautiful dinner, the couple and their guests danced for hours to the music spun by DJ Dwayne Oates, whom the couple had met while he was playing tunes at Classic Bowl.

Guests were treated to a delicious wedding cake by Dalton’s Cakes, a Black-owned, mother-daughter bakery in Grayslake.

Jones said she is forever grateful to Connie Henry and Nicole Henry for making the wedding a seamless event. This mother-daughter duo “made this day come to light” for the couple, putting the final touches on this perfect game.

Elizabeth Handler Krupkin

Elizabeth Handler Krupkin covers the local wedding scene for the Evanston RoundTable. Elizabeth is a lifelong Evanston resident and ETHS grad. When she is not teaching preschool you can find her running...

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  1. Perhaps this is a good time to tell my husband how happy I’ve been in the 60 yrs we’ve been married….60 years tomorrow, June 23! I have truly been blessed…..

  2. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh so they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together let no man separate.
    I am truly happy to know that you too are united as one. May you continue to be blessed in faith
    love joy and happiness
    Love you cuz😁❤️ 🙏🏼

  3. Sister in law I’m so glad you found your sole mate your song to your Chris whom I’ve welcomed from day one was the show stopper it blew the event out the door I love both of you soo much and as always you’ll always be my sister in law love 💘 MUCH

  4. Timeless honor and traditions are like love, they stand the test of time. To be there to witness your content, and happiness was humbling and I am very grateful. You have both set the bar for patience and commitment, as your niece I would blessed to follow your lead. congratulations again.

  5. Congratulations to my mom and Chris! They had the most beautiful wedding I’ve ever been to. And I’m so glad they make each other so happy! Love them so much!

  6. Absolutely a beautiful story as well as a beautiful couple!. I love them both dearly and know that God has His hand in this bond. 👌🏽💯🤗